You know the clutter in your house is making you feel terrible and you want it to change. But are you aware of why it’s happening in the first place? Often the first thought is self-loathing…”I used to be able to handle this, what is wrong with me?”
You’re not alone. Clutter is a fact of life for many people, people don’t feel good about it, and they put blame on themselves. As organizers, we try to get a sense of why the clutter is happening in the first place. Before you descend into guilt or run out to buy containers, think through the why a little more thoroughly…when clutter happens, it can be a symptom of bigger things going on in your household.
Sometimes the clutter is completely situational – the change could be major or minor. Minor disruptions include:
- Returning from a trip and haven’t had time to unpack
- Family members have been sick recently
- Being consumed by particularly busy period at work
- Hosting visitors
Major life events include:
- Home remodels
- Having a new child
- Getting married or divorced
- Death in the family
- Change of job
- Major injury
- Extensive travel
- ADD or other new diagnoses
These events can tax the bandwidth that you used to have to clean up the house AND changed life situations always require a revisit of your organizing systems.
LACK OF HABITS
Staying abreast of clutter build up requires implementing new habits of getting things back to their homes. We often say that being organizing doesn’t mean you HAVE to be neat but being organized gives you that option when you want to do clean-up/pickup. To avoid minor build up turning into a major dig-out effort, you have to create routine habits of putting things back where they live.
If you go to clean up and find yourself thinking you don’t really know where it lives or there’s no good place to put it that’s a clue that it doesn’t have a good home – see the next section!
NO GOOD HOME
“Don’t just put it down, put it away”…easier said than done if there is no assigned home for things. How often have you heard (or spoken) the phrase, “Go clean your room!” Well, if the room hasn’t been set up with good homes for their things, you might as well say, “Go build a rocketship!” Everyone needs to learn the basic principles of organizing.
A good home is created by design rather than by default. The home should take into account the who, what, when, where, and how: what is it and how is it used? by whom? where does it get used? how often? Creating a good home for things may require purging unused things that are taking up valuable space where your active things should live.
ASK FOR HELP
Once you identify that clutter is beyond you…you can’t get a handle on it, this is one reason to work with a trained professional…and not just a friend.
You may not be able to solve the root problems, but being aware of them helps to bring empathy and compassion to the situation. Ask for help.
As Professional Organizers, we are experienced in being able to recognize the multiple layers of influences that are contributing to the disorganization in the space. Once we’ve toured the space, we can help identify the root causes, prioritize the different aspects of the project and let you know what’s possible…and sometimes refer you to others who can resolve the issues.